An Erotic Religion

"The Great Rite" by Dennis Mahlmeister

“The Great Rite” by Dennis Mahlmeister

All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals.

— Doreen Valiente, “The Charge of the Goddess”

Neo-Pagans see the the human body and sexuality as sacred. Neo-Pagans  embrace our embodiment. Rather than seeking to dominate our bodies and our sexual desires through an exercise of will, Neo-Pagans seek to express our natural physical desires in healthy, joyful, sacred ways. Neo-Pagans believe that there is wisdom in our embodiment. This does not mean indiscriminate indulgence or abandonment to every impulse. It means listening to our bodies, rather than ignoring, repressing, or trying to escape them.

For Neo-Pagans, sexuality is both an expression of and a metaphor for the will to life. In his book Return of the Goddess, Edward Whitmont writes:

“Sexuality is more than just nature’s way of assuring reproduction of the species. It is also more than just pleasure and recreation. Sexuality, as Freud correctly intuited … is a fundamental expression of psychic energy. It is an undifferentiated channel of basic force, of cosmic fire. It pulses into rapturous identification with the life force itself, with its flood and ebb tides. It moves us through elementary upheavals. It is a channel of power, of self-realization, of ecstatic transcendence, surrender of self, and renewal. The [ancient] pagan sexual rites, then, were not merely agricultural or gynecological fertility procedures. They were also celebrations of death and renewal, mysteries to experience the Great Goddess and her son, the master of death and rebirth.”

This energy of life is called “eros”. The erotic is more than sexual. It is far more than the “sex in the head” that our culture commercializes, as far from pornography as it is from prudery. The erotic is about connection that is intimate, embodied, and sensual, but may or may not have a sexual component. In fact, in order to realize the full meaning of the erotic, it is important to de-sexualize ordinary touch. Because touch of any kind between two people is commonly sexualized in our culture, we live in a “touch-starved” state. We long for nonsexual physical connection so much so that some people seek out unhealthy sex out of desperation to make physical contact with another person. But any experience of physical connection or intimacy — whether with another person, with our own bodies, or with the physical world — may satisfy this longing.

Christine Hoff Kraemer describes the erotic as “a force that urges us toward intimacy, wholeness, and connection”. In this sense, the erotic encompasses not only lovemaking with a trusted partner, but also the embrace between long-separated friends, the cradling of a baby by a parent, or even the intake of air into one’s lungs, the touch of the sun on one’s skin, or the feeling of the soil under one’s toes. Neo-Pagans see these all as sacraments and as manifestations of divine presence. Neo-Pagans seek to cultivate this vital sense of connection in all aspects of their lives. This can be done through ritual or any spiritual practice which restores our sensual connection to our own bodies, to each other, or to the natural world.

Sexual pleasure is a particularly potent form of erotic experience. Sex can reconnect us with our sensual and emotional being and ground us in the immediacy of the present moment. It even has the potential to heal the rift between our psyche and nature and help us transcend the our narrow definitions of self. However, our sexuality can also be misused. Neo-Pagans condemn sexual acts which are coercive or exploitative. Some Neo-Pagans practice sacramental sex, in which sexual acts are ritualized. However, such rituals are always performed between consenting adults and in private.

Related Pages:

What is Neo-Paganism?
Neo-Pagan Beliefs
Neo-Pagan Theology

External Links:

Pagan Community Statement on Sexual Abuse (2010)

Revised 10/6/14


2 thoughts on “An Erotic Religion

  1. “itself, with is flood and ebb tides.”
    let’s just add in the missing ” t “

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